Updated: Feb 18
Juggling business and motherhood is challenging.
It’s the truth.
All mothers know it, you know it, I know it and its certainly not worth sugarcoating it to tell you that it’s not that hard.
Whether you are a mother already running a business from home or you are a mother planning to start soon, prepare to feel overwhelm at some point in your journey of motherhood.
It would be impossible to experience the real essence and beauty of motherhood without going through the uncomfortable and often dark times.
Overwhelm affects mothers in different ways, emotionally, mentally and physically. Some mothers go into a quiet, lonely zone unable to ask for help, whilst others may display rages of anger at themselves or those around them in frustration of not being able to manage effectively at that time. And for others there could be elements of self harm and fear of not being good enough, it can feels like the walls are closing in or even difficulty in breathing whilst trying to cope with the mountain of challenges in daily life - overwhelm shows up in different ways for different people.
However, the good news is that I can help you manage through these challenges with three simple steps. I am happy to give you some actionable success tips that will guide you through these issues. Before we take a look at these success tips its really important to acknowledge that it’s natural to go through these moments where you feel overwhelmed and that you are not alone and its very common amongst mothers but not all mothers will admit to it for fear of being judged.
It does not make you a bad mother if you feel tired of everything or that everything is too much to cope with and that time is running away and you can’t keep up with your daily activities as a mother and businesswoman.
Its actually healthy to feel overwhelmed once in a while as it enables you to recoup and rethink about where you are at, how much you are doing and it gives you an opportunity, if you are open to it, to rethink the ways you utilise your time and energy.
Listen to your Body (and Your Mind)
When you feel overwhelmed, it’s your mind’s way of telling you to take a break. Just like your body needs to rejuvenate its energy with a good night’s sleep, your mind needs a break too.
As mothers in business, it is very common to lose yourself in the race, the race to be a great mum and a businesswoman at the same time. The race that ensures all the balls you are juggling are in line and don't fall out of place. We often overlook our body’s warning signs.
This is the red light on the road that’s indicating you to stop. If you don’t stop on this red light, you will get into an accident. So, the best thing to do at such points is to stop. Take a break from everything, breathe, review and reflect. A break can be as simple as a short walk, a soak in the bath or just leaving your schedule clear for the day. You can do this on your own or with a partner or friend - write down what you are thinking and feeling, what actions is making you feel that way and identify how you can eliminate and carry out theat action differently to get a sense of completeness rather than overwhelm.
The holiday season is over. I am not suggesting you leave everything and go on a holiday! Certainly not. Running away from your challenges is not the answer.
The best way to take a break is to do what you enjoy. So, if you recognise these overwhelming thoughts, take a moment and give yourself a break.
When was the last time you spent money on your favourite ice cream?
You can also go out with your friends and socialise. Leave your children with a babysitter for some time. Often, mothers think that they are ‘bad’ if they leave the children with someone else when they want to have some time for themselves.
This is far from the truth. You are doing a favour to yourself and your child by doing this.
Tips to Overcome the Feeling of Overwhelm
You need to unwind so that you can do your best as a mother. Motherhood didn’t come with textbooks, a guide book or manual to teach you everything. It’s the only full-time job that doesn’t demand prior experience and has a priceless salary.
You were a working woman and then one day you became a mother or vice versa. Now you are dedicating your life to your children and work at the same time. The transition from motherhood to a mother in business is very overwhelming.
So, next time you feel overwhelmed, do the following.
1. Take a deep breath and smile.
2. Look in the mirror and tell yourself “I am good enough and I am a great mum”
3. Tell yourself that this is an inevitable phase of motherhood. It’s all part of the package.
4. Go easy on yourself. Hire some help if you can.
5. Make some time for yourself.
6. Do what you enjoy. Have dinner at your favourite restaurant. Read the book you want to read.
7. Talk it out with someone else. You can join an online platform and talk to other mothers.
For mothers in business, the challenges of life become more difficult. The road is full of feelings of loneliness, fear, guilt and overwhelm. The best way to get out of them is to manage them and then replace them with positivity.
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